Boundaries, Again

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I love these people. I love cooking for these people and buying gifts for them. I am not good with staying in the guidelines, I guess. I cooked too much and bought too many presents and was scolded for messing with the rules. But it was a pleasure to do so and I wondered if that pleasure came at the expense of my ability to set and follow boundaries. I am sure I know that answer to that. Its a fine line to walk, especially when it comes to happy things, vs. difficult ones.

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